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Jun 14

Reflections from exploring the 2-day program

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Edited: Jun 14

I have been taking time with the program. Each time I re-listened to the videos, I picked up something new. One the most apparent observation I noticed is how I rush into labelling or putting a story to my experiences as soon as I attempt to notice how I am feeling at any given moment. Even as I attempted to play with noticing the differences between feeling constricted vs. expansive, and the circumstances that led to the different states, my mind would leap into some preconceived notion. For example, telling myself that I feel constricted when I'm tired, in pain, etc. Or feeling expansive if my energy levels are higher. Perhaps these states have occurred often enough for my mind to leap into these sorts of conclusions, but before this program, I have not consciously questioned and investigated whether it is true every single time. And this is in spite of supposedly having been "investigating my experiences" as part of my mediation practice in the past few months! Very interesting.

Thank you for your reflections, Mettaflo. Yes, the script has been carefully worded in order to contain a lot of layers, each one opening to a new and interesting possibility of discovery. We all have a tendency to rush into labelling our experiences with preconceived notions and story-creation, whether or not they are indeed true. In doing so, we miss the opportunity to truly be with our experiences in each moment.

 

I'd encourage you to continue this exploration. You don't need to rush to do the second day of the program. It will be there for you when you wish to explore a different and equally interesting topic. Then, you will be able to integrate the content of the two days more fully into your life.

Yes is it because sometimes a little knowledge can be dangerous? It’s my “habit” too, I tend to label in black and white, all or nothing, because I’ve had a little mindfulness training that taught to recognise thoughts and jettison those that are not helpful to feeling “strong” However, what if those labels and preconceived thoughts are actually what makes you, you?

To add to this, what if those labels and preconceived thoughts solidified ‘you’, such that you were no longer able to be open to all the other possibilities that are in existence? This is the invitation here.

Jul 11

What I've been noticing is that the way I rush into labeling my experiences is my way of actually dissociating with feeling how I am really feeling (whether it is a pleasant or unpleasant or neither-pleasant-nor-unpleasant feelings)! And this morning, it occurred to me that hey, unpleasant feelings doesn't have to mean that something "bad" is about to happen. Maybe it is just a simple unpleasant feeling... Nothing more nothing less...

 

Yes, in a way, labelling an experience dissociates one from the actual experience because we are now attending to the conceptual idea rather than the actual experience. Perhaps a better way of phrasing this could be : labelling an experience moves our attention away from what are feeling to the concepts we form.

 

A common pathway we take goes something like this: we experience something unpleasant -> we have an aversion to it -> we form a concept that we don't like it, why we don't like it, that it is bad, that we know all the bad things that are going to result from it, etc etc. This realm of concepts takes us away from the actual experience. All we really need to do is to notice the hedonic tone of our experience and discern the difference between this fact with the subsequent craving for the situation to be different and conceptual overlays. This, of course, is very subtle and requires constantly noticing these nuances.

 

Good to see you are continuing with this in ways that can truly be beneficial to your life, Mettaflo.

Jul 12

@Li-Anne Yellachich ooo.... I really like the rephrase: labelling an experience moves our attention away from what are feeling to the concepts we form. Thank you so much for the guidance! :)

@mettaflo *my typo: labelling our experience moves our attention away from what *we are feeling to the concepts we form.

 

Remember that we can always choose to move our attention to something else if what we are currently tending to is not useful for our well-being. Remaining aware of whether or not we are heading in the direction of contentment, ease and well-being is what can help us decide if we could direct our attention more wisely in each moment.

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